Marital and couples counseling requires a different process of engagement from both the therapist and participants. Changing levels of affection and connection demands an approach that is direct but deliberative in how couples manifest their hopes for restoring a relationship.
Relationships always take work to be vibrant and sustaining. Often over the course of a marriage couples forget the ways they used to connect. More than just having conversations, time spent together, affectionate contact and bonding over the daily events of life and family are the means of ‘communication’. When we flounder, we question our love and desire to remain a couple.
Making deliberate efforts to demonstrate an understanding of the needs of the spouse, especially when those actions have been absent gives way to speaking through behavior and showing that there are many ways to rekindle affectionate and caring emotions. With each identifying needs and seeing those met makes it easier believe that coupling can be repaired and improve the quality of significant life relationships.
Counseling provides the avenue for establishing the conditions necessary to focus on the issues that have created tension in the relationship. Open and direct conversations will lead to ways to practically and deliberately alter negative behavior patterns and for each to see their needs being lovingly considered and met. Attacking the problems in smaller sections of behavior avoids the overwhelming impact of years of confrontation, disappointment and loss of connection.
As an aspect of problems in the relationship may necessitate that one or both of the participants seek individual counseling to address another level of concerns that they have. Within Dittmar Counseling, those individual services could be establish but with a therapist that isn’t providing couple’s counseling.